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"Blind belief in authority is the greatest enemy of truth."
Albert Einstein (via purplebuddhaproject)
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15 Ways We Can Put An End To The Dishonest Dating Culture We’ve Created →

1. If you like someone, don’t pretend you don’t.

If the person then runs for the hills, ask yourself what the point was for investing any further emotion, anyway?


2. GO ON DATES.

They aren’t an extinct practice. Going to the movies with someone doesn’t mean you’re signing a marriage license. It’s for fun, you guys.


3. Don’t use your past relationships as a crutch that enables you to fear commitment.

We have all had relationships that failed. If you use those problems to justify your twisted actions in every future romantic encounter, you will waste many potentially successful relationships.


4. Don’t alter what you want.

If you want a relationship and someone else doesn’t, don’t settle for his or her sake. That would be like playing a board game without getting to roll your own dice.


5. Stop caring about what people will think.

The connotations that surround dating and relationships are so blurred and disfigured at this point that you will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out how to please everyone.


6. Quit using people.

Don’t use others for the way they make you look to other people. Don’t use them for physical reasons. Don’t use them because you’re lonely. Just don’t use them.

You use a mop to clean the floor. You use a match to start a fire. You don’t use human beings to satisfy your own needs.


7. Find out who people actually are.

Go ahead; ask about their little sisters and whether they’re more afraid of spiders or snakes. There’s nothing wrong with learning more about people than the fact that they like Fireball whiskey and study engineering.


8. Have chivalry and respect in every way.

As the age-old saying goes, always treat others as you wish to be treated. No one deserves anything less than your utmost respect.


9. Stop playing with other people’s emotions.

If you know that you are dragging someone along for selfish reasons, put yourself in his or her shoes and do the decent thing. Just be honest.


10. Stop settling.

If you want that girl with the curly blonde hair and 4.0 who you hardly know, go for it. You aren’t beneath anyone or anything; you can have a dream and you are the largest obstacle standing in the way of it actually happening.

Stop feeling like you are limited to certain people; you’ll only grow to be unsatisfied with that limited group.


11. Don’t be afraid to be corny.

Just be you. If simple things like a “good morning” text or an impromptu smoothie date is how you want to show interest in someone, go for it. Be dorky and stop worrying about satisfying the status quo.


12. Take all of the physical aspects of your relationship slowly.

I know this one is difficult to grasp, but let’s be completely honest about the fact that intimacy complicates things. Why add one more complication before you can trust someone?


13. Don’t try to make someone jealous.

It will never lead the person to like you more. I’ll never understand why we seem to think that it’s a viable option in any situation.


14. Let go of any preconceived expectations you have for someone.

Trust me, you really have no idea what you want and dismissing people based upon your specific criteria could lead you to really miss out.

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veg-tastic:

treekisser:

How amazing is MTV Canada personality Phoebe Dykstra in The Tree Kisser "Animals Are Not Fabric" boxy tank?? For all style options in this design, visit: http://bit.ly/AnimalsAreNotFabric 

Cutie. 

veg-tastic:

treekisser:

How amazing is MTV Canada personality Phoebe Dykstra in The Tree Kisser "Animals Are Not Fabric" boxy tank?? For all style options in this design, visit: http://bit.ly/AnimalsAreNotFabric 

Cutie. 

— 1 month ago with 81 notes

turn ons - trust, patience, nonviolence

turn offs - short tempers, relationship conflict, pushy people

— 1 month ago with 3 notes
My Favorite Mental Health Documentaries + Links →

justlouisabeinglouisa:

Addictions

Facing The Habbit - There are over two million heroin addicts in the United States alone.

In this documentary we follow Dave, a former millionaire stockbroker who has lost control of his heroin addiction, travel to Mexico for undergo an Ibogaine treatment as…

— 1 month ago with 416 notes

khaoskomix:

Okay, so I missed making comics alright? I brought out a new t-shirt at manchester expo and people went nuts over it, inspiring me to come up with an entire series of characters, and comics to go with them. 

Here’s the t-shirt that started this whole mess:

http://www.khaoskomix.com/shop/en/clothing/114-t-shirt-fabulous.html

And if you want to see more, vote for the next monster over here! 

http://poll.pollcode.com/82222284

HOW CUTE TIS! VERRILY

(Source: discordcomics.com, via lgbtlaughs)

— 1 month ago with 5011 notes
necessaryveganism:

animalsandtrees:

"Given what we know about the connections between animal agribusiness and climate change, water waste, pollution and more, why aren’t the major environmental organizations more vocal and straightforward about promoting the alternative to it? 
Today, please respectfully ask environmental organizations to promote veganism as an easy, accessible and, most important, effective solution to human-caused ecological disasters. Preserving our planet and its inhabitants is of far greater importance than not alienating members and potential members. Environmental organizations should be leading the charge, not counting memberships, and we don’t have time to waste.https://www.facebook.com/VeganStreet —-> https://www.facebook.com/SierraClub —-> https://www.facebook.com/greenpeace.international —-> https://www.facebook.com/rainforestactionnetwork “

Not only are they “not very vocal” about it, there is nothing but absolute deafening silence coming from these organisations.The people whose primary concern should be the wellbeing of our planet are quiet. It’s up to us. Please spread the word.

necessaryveganism:

animalsandtrees:

"Given what we know about the connections between animal agribusiness and climate change, water waste, pollution and more, why aren’t the major environmental organizations more vocal and straightforward about promoting the alternative to it?

Today, please respectfully ask environmental organizations to promote veganism as an easy, accessible and, most important, effective solution to human-caused ecological disasters. Preserving our planet and its inhabitants is of far greater importance than not alienating members and potential members. Environmental organizations should be leading the charge, not counting memberships, and we don’t have time to waste.
https://www.facebook.com/VeganStreet

—-> https://www.facebook.com/SierraClub
—-> https://www.facebook.com/greenpeace.international
—-> https://www.facebook.com/rainforestactionnetwork “

Not only are they “not very vocal” about it, there is nothing but absolute deafening silence coming from these organisations.

The people whose primary concern should be the wellbeing of our planet are quiet. It’s up to us. Please spread the word.

(via guruwithin)

— 1 month ago with 702 notes
"The richest man is not he who has the most, but he who needs the least."
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"People want to believe gender is something that’s essential, and people repeat these essentialist ideas all the time. “Oh, women do that” and “Oh, men do that” and the reality is that all women don’t anything. We as individuals do what we do, you know, and sometimes that’s informed by gender and sometimes it’s just who we are. And I think all that just makes people really, really uncomfortable because they don’t want to think about who they are."
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"Despite what you may have been taught, your sensitivity doesn’t make you weak. It doesn’t make you too emotional, too soft, or in any way too much. It has always been and will always be a strength. The truth is that you can be soft and still be strong. You aren’t a rock, immune to the shift and pull of the world around you. You’re the ocean. Always ebbing and flowing; easily affected by the moon and the weather. But immense and deep. Resilient and powerful. Bounding with life. Yes, you feel things intensely and yes, you’re easily wounded by others. But it’s the intensity of your feelings that gives you such incredible insight into who you are and what you need to feel whole. It’s that intensity that makes you deeply connected to yourself and the world around you. And it’s your wounds that allow you to be empathetic and compassionate towards the wounds of others. Wounds that give you an awareness to recognize when people are hurting, and tools to offer support in ways that less sensitive people might not be able to. I know that it’s so hard to believe in the moment when you feel incapacitated by your feelings, but your sensitivity is a truly a gift. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, convince you otherwise."
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"Assimilationists want nothing less than to construct the homosexual as normal - white, monogamous, wealthy, 2.5 children, SUVs with a white picket fence. This construction, of course, reproduces the stability of heterosexuality, whiteness, patriarchy, the gender binary, and capitalism itself. If we genuinely want to make ruins of this totality, we need to make a break. We don’t need inclusion into marriage, the military, and the state. We need to end them. No more gay politicians, CEOs, and cops. We need to swiftly and immediately articulate a wide gulf between the politics of assimilation and the struggle for liberation. We need to rediscover our riotous inheritance as queer anarchists. We need to destroy constructions of normalcy, and create instead a position based in our alienation from this normalcy, and one capable of dismantling it."

Toward The Queerest Insurrection  (via faggotviolence)

All of these things.

(via sexistentialisms)

(Source: vileprince, via projectqueer)

— 1 month ago with 2338 notes
Vacation Equality Project Petition to the White House :) →

http://www.alternet.org/activism/america-it-time-get-vacation-you-need-and-deserven a petition for the US to get more paid vacation

— 1 month ago

Indirect aggressive abuse: Name-calling is direct and obvious, but an underhanded way to make it much less obvious is to drop the angry tone of voice that usually accompanies it, and disguise the insult as teaching, helping, giving advice, or offering solutions. It appears to be a sincere attempt to help, but it’s actually an attempt to belittle, control and demean you.

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