Existential Pinup Grrrl

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Here are some signs that might indicate that’s time to let go of a relationship:

1. Someone expects you to be someone you’re not. – Don’t change who you are for anyone else. It’s wiser to lose someone over being who you are, than to keep them by being someone you’re not. Because it’s…

This post is based on an interview I did with Leland Carina. My thanks to her for her thoughtful questions, and for all the work she does for the community. Becoming An Interpreter Like a lot of ki…

Low-grade insults meant to undermine the self-confidence of a woman so she might be more vulnerable to your advances. This is something no decent guy would do. They say that the assholes get the girls, but I can spot negging a mile away and I reject these fuckers straight off.

- Wow, this is a thing. A super horrible verbally abusive thing. 

I might have to try this. It’s TOO hilarious. Plus I need money and the fact that useless crap laying around my house has value on the free market kind of fascinates me. I’m Taoist and materialism is just…weird. Funny strange and occasionally as in this case - funny ha ha. Not that I don’t like nice stuff! Used panties just don’t really qualify for me. Eye of the beholder? I’ve been selling my books and collector’s items for months just to get by, even selling my furniture to pay my phone bill. Is this next? Hmmm…

The following questions will help you determine if you’re the type of person who becomes a victim.

1.    Do you tend to stay quiet in relationships instead of confidently asking for what you want?

yes

2.    Do you feel inadequate on your own, and only feel worthwhile if you are part of a couple?

sometimes

3.    Has a girlfriend or boyfriend, at some point in the past, been able to isolate you from your friends?

yes

4.    Are you too much of a people pleaser?

??

5.    Do you desperately want and need to be loved?

no

6.    Do you bury and suppress your anger and resentment?

yes

7.    Do you find it hard to say NO to others, and to set and maintain healthy boundaries?

yes

8.    Would you describe yourself as being over-responsible?

used to be true

9.    Do you struggle with feelings of false guilt and shame?

depends what you mean by false…

10. Do you desperately want to be noticed and affirmed?

no - rather not be noticed

11. Do you lose your unique self if in your relationships with others? maybe

12. Do you find hard to disagree with others? 

no

13. Are you the kind of person who takes care of others but doesn’t really take care of themselves?

yes

14.  Do you give more than the other person in close relationships?

not much experience with relationships - but yes

15. Are you always saying “sorry”; do you tend to assume that everything “bad” is your fault?

no

16. Are you a bit on the gullible side; are you easily taken in by others? yes; it’s hard for me to believe people have bad intentions/are bad

17. Do you allow other people to squash your spirit, and suffocate your creativity?

yea…

18. Do you tend to ignore that nagging inner voice and to blindly hope that everything will be OK?

yes - i ignore my intuition a lot and try to trust people/life instead - i haven’t really found the balance yet. 

19. In relationship, do you pretend that any problems “are no big deal” as you’d rather avoid them, than address them properly?

no i like to address things asap and move on - conflict can be constructive

20. Do you tend to forgive too easily?

??? i guess so…

samsaranmusing:

1. To the best of your ability meditate at regular times in the cool of the morning or the quiet of the night. This way your family or roommates will come to know your meditation times and perhaps be respectful of this time.

2. Have a designated meditation spot. It can be a corner of your room….